An Emotional Pandemic
At this present moment we are living under a dark cloud which I call FEAR. When we speak of fear it means there is an absence of courage, and what fuels courage is FAITH. With faith we can focus and believe that all is possible – health, love, peace and joy, without worrying about how these things are going to come to us. Fear is brought on by focusing on what is bad, what can go wrong, and what can bring sadness, loss, sickness or death. The way this pandemic is being handled...
Stress – How it Affects the Body and Mind
As promised, this first article will address stress and how if affects the body and mind.
In the beginning when I started to do therapy, clients were coming to my office and complaining about stress. It was difficult to work with them, as the comment “I’m stressed” did not tell me what the actual problem was.
First of all we have to understand that everything we do or don’t do is because we want to have a feeling – either we want to feel good, or we want to prevent ourselves...
The Signs of Stress
With an understanding of what stress really is – a response a person feels when experiencing one or more negative emotions at one time – it is now important to recognize the types, misconceptions and signs of stress. There are three different types of stress – eustress, acute stress, and chronic stress.
Eustress is a harmless type of stress. It comes from doing things that are exciting. Eustress makes a person feel vital and energized. People experience this type of stress...
Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Feelings
Let’s take a moment to review the previous articles. We started out by talking about “cause and effect”. I explained that the cause of every effect is the thought, and the effect is always the feeling, either good or bad. Also it is very important to remember that whatever we do or don’t do is because we want to have a feeling. Either we want to feel good, or we want to prevent ourselves from feeling bad. You must remember that the “feeling” you are having is always the effect,...
Communicating With Your Emotions
The intention of these monthly articles is to take complex events that happen within our mind and body and try to explain them in a simple manner. The purpose of this is so that you, the reader, can have a better understanding as to why you are either proactive or reactive to what is happening inside you and around you. For this issue, we will discuss how to better communicate with your emotions in order to have a happier life.
Understanding the way our bodies function on a...
How Do We Learn?
We all have the power to create the images that will guide our feelings and ultimately create a stress-free life. Regardless of circumstances, we can always control our feelings in this simple way. It is important to begin practicing this technique as often as possible, and over time there will be a great difference in your feelings and in an overall sense of contentment. The reason the change occurs gradually is simple. It is all in how we learn.
The conscious mind gathers...
Become Whole – Regain Peace
Last month we addressed the topic of grief, and I made reference to a client who had buried “a part of herself” with her husband when he passed. I have done my own clinical research with hundreds of clients on the concept of “giving away parts of one’s self,” and I would like to share with you some of my conclusions and discoveries. I would like to elaborate on the topic of “taking back parts” of one’s self that are given away and how this concept helps clients who may be grieving...
Grieving The Loss of a Loved One
Grieving the loss of a loved one, whether the loss was through death, divorce, or a lost relationship can cause great emotional sadness. Over the years in my clinical experience, I have had many clients who told me that they felt fragmented, empty, or “not whole” after losing either a loved one through death or a relationship break-up. Although we worked on different negative emotions, the deep sadness created by this loss did not go away… they still felt a deep emptiness inside.
Through...
Worry
For several weeks now, my editor has been asking me to write on the topic of “worry”. “Everyone is always worrying so much, and you could help so many people deal with their constant worrying,” she said. “People worry about their children, their jobs, their health, their finances; they worry about what other people think… the worrying people do is ongoing.” I would think about the topic, but nothing would come up. I had a difficult time grasping “worry”. Every week she would ask...
Beautiful You
We all have the power to create the images that will guide our feelings and ultimately create a stress-free life. Regardless of circumstances, we can always control our feelings in this simple way. It is important to begin practicing this technique as often as possible, and over time there will be a great difference in your feelings and in an overall sense of contentment. The reason the change occurs gradually is simple. It is all in how we learn.
The conscious mind gathers...
Emotional Tune-up
Everyone takes his or her car in for a tune-up so it will run properly and without any problems. But how many people take their mind for an emotional tune-up? Just like a car needs to be in shape, and tuned up to perform at an optimal level, the mind requires maintenance as well. Keeping your mind in optimal performance should be a priority because the mind runs and controls everything, not only within you, but also outside of you as well.
Most people are afraid to be in touch...
Surviving the Season
Our everyday lives are already so busy as we juggle so much responsibility—work, school, family, friends, children, chores, bills, our homes, social engagements, and appointments. Throw in a million more tasks and events in our already jam packed schedules to prepare for the holiday season and it is no wonder people get stressed.
On top of all the extra time that is needed as we try to do too much as the festive season approaches, there are the high expectations that are aligned...
Pain… and its Misunderstanding
When we talk about pain, we are talking about a subject that is misunderstood by many who are involved in the treatment of pain. Often these people have very little, or in some cases, no training at all in dealing with pain. The teaching of pain in medical school is so minimal that it makes it very difficult to understand and treat pain. When clients are referred to my office to help them deal with pain, they have no understanding about pain. They only know that their body hurts,...
Emotional Murder
In my 20+ years of counseling experience I have worked with many clients who have emotional issues. Some of these clients are emotionally murdered every day by people that are close to them; this could be from their spouse, family members or friends, but unfortunately no one punishes the culprit.
What does it mean when I say someone is being emotionally murdered? This occurs when someone day after day is told that they are not good enough, not smart enough, or not worthy enough....
Mind Your Business
The success or failure of any business is determined by a person’s state of mind and how they choose to respond to a given situation. When events occur, whether it is in our personal/family life or in our business/work life, there are two ways a person can choose to handle the situation. Some people “react” to a given circumstance and some people choose to respond in a proactive way.
We have all heard sayings like, “do you look at the glass as half full or half empty,” “a pessimist...